It all started when...
I almost walked away from Mr. Right. I know it's sounds ridiculous.
Why would a smart and successful woman meet Mr. Right and want to leave?
The truth is at the time I didn't feel worthy of his love. I thought if he really knew me he would eventually walk away from the relationship and I didn't want to be abandoned or rejected again.
I was so used to being abandoned that I started to create new opportunities to be abandoned and to be alone.
When I was 12 years old my father pass away (abandonment #1), my mother went to Nigeria for his funeral and never came back to America (abandonment #2).
20 years later, I went to Nigeria to have the "Why Did You Leave Me?" conversation with my mother that haunted me for years.
What does abandonment wounds have to do with self-love and attracting lasting love?
Abandonment wounds leave you feeling unworthy, unlovable, alone, and empty.
My abandonment wounds made me feel like I wasn't enough for so many years. One of the thoughts that I carried around for many years was, "if my mother doesn't love me then no one can love me."
I avoided getting close to people and never allowed them to get to close to me so I wouldn't love them. I had an emotional wall up to block myself from loving anyone to avoid further abandonment and rejection.
That's why I decided that the best thing to do was to break up with Mr. Right on our next date. Yes, you read that correctly the first time. I believed I was unlovable so this nice gentleman that had been taking me out on dates and treating like a Queen had to be pretending like he really liked me. His love for me had to be an illusion. He really doesn't know that I'm not good enough to be loved, I thought. These were the thoughts that haunted me deep down but I couldn't say it out loud. To be honest, I didn't realize I doubted my worth at the time.
After hours of conversing with him, I found out that he wanted me for who I was and not who I was going to be in the future. I'll share with you how this ended a little later. Keep reading.
Real love is for you even if you've been rejected and abandoned by a parent(s) or man. Real love is for you even if you've been betrayed or cheated on in the past.
I'll help you experience deeper love even if you've felt alone, unlovable, and empty for a very longtime. I felt this way for over a decade and I'll help you feel connected, feel loved, and be whole using my love and life systems.
What's my background? Why am I qualified to help women cultivate deeper self-love so they can WIN at love and life.
I've had the pleasure of working as a high school counselor for 10 years. Working with young people to believe in themselves and to never give up was an amazing gift. Helping young people improve their grades, attendance, and attitude is something I love to do.
With over 18 years of studies, practicing psychology and utilizing counseling skills, I've used those techniques to help students, parents, and teachers create long-lasting change in their lives.
I was awarded the STUDENT-TEACHER counselor award at the my former school. After teachers saw results in students, they started knocking on my door so I could help them get unstuck, create a clear plan so they could achieve their love and life goals.
GRADUATE SCHOOL PROFESSOR
I taught graduate school students at the City University of New York (Lehman College) for 4 years at the Department of Counseling, Leadership, Literacy, and Special Education.
I taught the Practicum in Counseling course for 4 years. One of the things I loved about teaching the Practicum course was helping my students apply theories in practice.
Now, why is this important?
Well, the gap between information and transformation is BIG ONE. There are many people who have the ability to share facts, figure, quotes, and words they read in a book. But few have the ability to help people transform their lives like I do.
There are people like myself who were blessed with the skills and techniques to help people CHANGE their lives in REAL LIFE. I help my students become effective counselors so that they too could help their clients and students change their own lives. [I utilize a teach them how to fish approach.]
I'm results-driven and have been so since I can remember. I love process but I enjoy seeing woman and girls accomplish their goals, get unstuck, love themselves deeper, and believe in their gifts, talents, and abilities.
For the past few years, I've helped women all over the world:
- find their life purpose
- heal emotional wounds
- leave unhealthy relationships
- attract true love
- boost their self-confidence
- achieve their goals (financial freedom, start a business)
- believe that they are ENOUGH
- WIN at life
Through all my years and experience coaching youngsters, college professors, and therapists, I learned that they all have one thing in common, getting knowledge.
A woman who has coach or mentor is an unstoppable women. She will never fail permanently unless she tries to do it on her own. "When you're in the frame you cannot see the entire picture." ~ Queenette Nwobodo
One of the bible quotes I live by comes from Proverbs 4:7, which states "The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding".
I've invested heavily on coaches and mentors because God said so. Because I listened, I've have found my life purpose, attracted true love, started a thriving business, and developed the greatest love of all - self-love.
The gap between where you are right now and your heart's deepest desires is a coach. You need a coach who not only has wisdom by a system and a process to help you achieve your goals.
Nothing gives me greater pleasure than being the mother of three incredible kids. Chiamaka (far left), Obinna (middle), and Chidimma (far right) are the brightest stars in the sky. The are my heart beating on outside of my chest.
Motherhood has taught me to:
- plan and but be flexible
- love with my entire heart
- fulfill my life purpose because they are watching
- say "I don't know" when I don't know
- say "I'm sorry" when I'm wrong
- be present even though I want to answer an email :)
- cherish family nights because they still think we're cool
- trust my instincts and intuition
- attention and love means more than presents
- forgive myself quickly when I get it wrong
My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have been together for 14 years. Earlier, I shared with you how we met and how self-worth almost cost me a good thing. My client don't have to make the mistakes that I did because I show them how to cultivate a healthy and loving relationship.
Being a wife has taught me:
- never give up on love
- open my heart to receive love
- give my love openly and as deeply as possible
- laugh as hard as possible because I'm happy
- love as deep as possible because I'm loved
- to compromise because if I'm right, then I'm wrong
- we are a team and we win together
- say "sorry" when I'm wrong and right
- Deep loving and intimate connection feels so good
- be supportive and nurturing because he needs to know that I see him, hear him and that he is loved
- We are purpose partners who help each other achieve our life purpose.
I learned how to create a healthy and loving relationship while I was married. My goal is to help you create a healthy, loving, relationship prior to getting married.
Live - Love - Laugh
I don't believe in limitations. In fact, I'm run away from anything and anyone that dares to limit the possibilities that God has for me.
I found true love by reclaiming my self-worth while staying soft and honoring my true feelings.
I learned how to really and truly love myself unconditionally. I turned my abandonment wounds into wisdom, and that allowed me to receive love. I learned to trust my greatest gift – my intuition! And used it to guide my choices while staying authentic and true to myself every step of the way.
I help women like you remove the barriers to love. I help you removed the walls of self-protection that keeps you isolated and feeling alone. Together, we remove all the built up fear and resentment, and the negative expectation of disappointment.
I help you believe in love and trust yourself to choose the right man and keep a healthy and loving relationship. I help you establish new and healthy loving habits. We install healthier boundaries around your beautiful heart so you can attract a high-quality man. You'll learn how to date with confidence, be courted properly, and marry the love of your life (a.k.a. your Purpose Partner).
It’s time for you feel connected, cherished, appreciated and supported in a loving relationship with a THE RIGHT ONE.
ONLINE SELF-STUDY COURSES
What do you need the most help with? Relationships, Life Purpose or Confidence
DATE LIKE A QUEEN
I AM ENOUGH ACADEMY
RADICAL SELF-CONFIDENCE BOOTCAMP
Real Love TRAINING
attract Mr. right AND BUILD A LOVING HOME
For women who are ready to meet and marry Mr. Right without settling for less. If a healthy loving relationship is your deepest desire and you are ready to build a family with a high-quality man who is commitment ready learn more.
FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE +Self-love TRAINING
FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE AND DEVELOP A DEEPER SELF-LOVE
For women who want to find their life purpose, overcome fear of abandonment and rejection. If you are ready release the past pain, and elevate your life to the next level learn more.
believe in myself AND ACHIEVE MY GOALS
For women who are questioning who she is and what she wants to do in the world. If you lost the fearless woman you were in your 20's and ready to step into shoes again learn more.
My life's mission is to help 1 million women cultivate deeper SELF-LOVE, attract TRUE LOVE and find their LIFE PURPOSE.
I believe a woman who finds her true calling in life will never be alone. When you find your calling you'll find out why you were created in the first place. Once a woman is 30-45 years old her relationship needs are completely different because her life is different than when she in her 20's. I find that most women between the ages of 30-45 years old are still dating on an EMOTIONAL level of a 20 year old. Now, the income may have increased, the responsibilities may have increased, the lifestyle may be better, but the emotional level of romantic relationship has not changed.
Yes, I know that is a bold statement to make. I have been here before so I recognize the signs clearly. If you've been abandoned physically or emotionally by your mother or father, God created me to help you heal those wounds, love deeper, and achieve your life goals. There are hidden blocks that's getting in the way of deeper love connections that I help you clear out so true love can come in.
I help women like you WIN at love and life through online course, coaching, live events and speaking engagements.
W.I.N stands for WHOLE. INTUITIVE. NECESSARY.