It all started when...
I almost walked away from Mr. Right. I know it's sounds ridiculous.
Why would a smart and successful woman meet Mr. Right and want to leave?
The truth is at the time I didn't feel worthy of his love. I thought if he really knew me he would eventually walk away from the relationship and I didn't want to be abandoned or rejected again.
I was so used to being abandoned that I started to create new opportunities to be abandoned and to be alone.
When I was 12 years old my father pass away (abandonment #1), my mother went to Nigeria for his funeral and never came back to America (abandonment #2).
20 years later, I went to Nigeria to have the "Why Did You Leave Me?" conversation with my mother that haunted me for years.
What does abandonment wounds have to do with self-love and attracting lasting love?
Abandonment wounds leave you feeling unworthy, unlovable, alone, and empty.
My abandonment wounds made me feel like I wasn't enough for so many years. One of the thoughts that I carried around for many years was, "if my mother doesn't love me then no one can love me."
I avoided getting close to people and never allowed them to get to close to me so I wouldn't love them. I had an emotional wall up to block myself from loving anyone to avoid further abandonment and rejection.
That's why I decided that the best thing to do was to break up with Mr. Right on our next date. Yes, you read that correctly the first time. I believed I was unlovable so this nice gentleman that had been taking me out on dates and treating like a Queen had to be pretending like he really liked me. His love for me had to be an illusion. He really doesn't know that I'm not good enough to be loved, I thought. These were the thoughts that haunted me deep down but I couldn't say it out loud. To be honest, I didn't realize I doubted my worth at the time.
After hours of conversing with him, I found out that he wanted me for who I was and not who I was going to be in the future. I'll share with you how this ended a little later. Keep reading.
Real love is for you even if you've been rejected and abandoned by a parent(s) or man. Real love is for you even if you've been betrayed or cheated on in the past.
I'll help you experience deeper love even if you've felt alone, unlovable, and empty for a very longtime. I felt this way for over a decade and I'll help you create deeper connections, healthy and loving companionship, and an unshakeable self-love using my love (Date Like A Queen™) and life (I Am Enough Academy™) programs.
Date Like A Queen has helped me to deal with the abandonment issues that stemmed from my childhood (with my father). I learned that it's okay to develop myself because that has helped me tremendously with my relationship with my boyfriend. We did the homework assignments that Queenette gave us, and it made our connection stronger. My confidence is much higher, and I know that "I am enough." The one thing that I wasn't expecting but got from the program was forgiving one of my family members. I didn't realize that other things affected my romantic relationship that had nothing to do with my boyfriend. I have a much more positive outlook on my life and my relationship because of Date Like A Queen. ~ Victoria
What's my background? Why am I qualified to help women cultivate deeper self-love so they can WIN at love and life.
I've had the pleasure of working as a high school counselor for 10 years. Working with young people to believe in themselves and to never give up was an amazing gift. Helping young people improve their grades, attendance, and attitude is something I love to do.
With over 18 years of studies, practicing psychology and utilizing counseling skills, I've used those techniques to help students, parents, and teachers create long-lasting change in their lives.
I was awarded the STUDENT-TEACHER counselor award at the my former school. After teachers saw results in students, they started knocking on my door so I could help them get unstuck, create a clear plan so they could achieve their love and life goals.
GRADUATE SCHOOL PROFESSOR
I taught graduate school students at the City University of New York (Lehman College) for 4 years at the Department of Counseling, Leadership, Literacy, and Special Education.
I taught the Practicum in Counseling course for 4 years. One of the things I loved about teaching the Practicum course was helping my students apply theories in practice.
Now, why is this important?
Well, the gap between information and transformation is BIG ONE. There are many people who have the ability to share facts, figure, quotes, and words they've read in a book. But few have the ability to help people permanently transform their lives like I do.
I've been blessed with the skills and techniques to help people CHANGE their lives in REAL LIFE. I help my students become effective counselors so that they too could help their clients and students change their own lives. [I utilize a teach them how to fish approach.]
I'm results-driven and have been so since I can remember. I love process but I enjoy seeing woman and girls accomplish their goals, get unstuck, love themselves deeper, and believe in their gifts, talents, and abilities.
For the past few years, I've helped women all over the world:
- find their life purpose
- heal emotional wounds
- leave unhealthy relationships
- attract true love
- boost their self-confidence
- achieve their goals (financial freedom, start a business)
- believe that they are ENOUGH
- WIN at life
Through all my years and experiences coaching youngsters, college professors, and therapists, I learned that they all have one thing in common, getting knowledge.
A woman who has coach or mentor is an unstoppable women. She will never fail permanently unless she tries to do it on her own. "When you're in the frame you cannot see the entire picture." ~ Queenette Nwobodo
One of the bible quotes I live by comes from Proverbs 4:7, which states "The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding".
I've invested heavily on coaches and mentors because God said so. Because I listened, I've have found my life purpose, attracted true love, started a thriving business, and developed the greatest love of all - self-love.
The gap between where you are right now and your heart's deepest desires is a coach with a proven system. My Date Like A Queen™ and I Am Enough Academy™ programs are the systems and a processes I use to help like you achieve break unhealthy patterns that are blocking healthy friendships and relationships.
Prior to taking Date Like A Queen, I thought I knew what dating was all about. I was married to a narcissist for twenty-three years and now divorced. I was not willing to give up on having that true authentic love. To my surprise, after taking Date Like A Queen, it really showed me that I had no clue what a healthy relationship was all about. Date Like A Queen showed me that dating had nothing to do with my ex-husband or all the others that I dated. They were just the symptoms of my own "brokenness." Date Like A Queen instilled in me that "I Am Enough" and to do inner healing work so when it's time Mr. Right will come along to find me (the shiny light). Thank you so much Queenette for allowing your struggles and triumph to help me to be everything that God has already put inside of me which is the Queen he created.
"The Date Like A Queen" program has sincerely blessed my life. The saying is so true that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Queenette is a God-send. Her kindred spirit, transparency and grounded personality made the lessons easy to understand and relatable. Queenette's level of devotion and compassion to help purpose-driven women is evident on the Q&A calls. She was patient and empathetic to our needs. There was never an issue not addressed. She gave us the tools to effectively deal with past issues in order to lay the framework for healthy relationships and prosperous future marriages. I wish the course was longer and cannot wait to begin our one-on-one coaching together. I would highly recommend this program to any woman ready to heal and attract the love they truly deserve. You will not be disappointed!"
Nothing gives me greater pleasure than being the mother of three incredible kids. Chiamaka (far left), Obinna (middle), and Chidimma (far right) are the brightest stars in the sky. The are my heart beating on outside of my chest.
Motherhood has taught me to:
- plan and but be flexible
- love with my entire heart
- fulfill my life purpose because they are watching
- say "I don't know" when I don't know
- say "I'm sorry" when I'm wrong
- be present even though I want to answer an email :)
- cherish family nights because they still think we're cool
- trust my instincts and intuition
- attention and love means more than presents
- forgive myself quickly when I get it wrong
My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have been together for 14 years. Earlier, I shared with you how we met and how self-worth almost cost me a good thing. My client don't have to make the mistakes that I did because I show them how to cultivate a healthy and loving relationship.
Being a wife has taught me:
- never give up on love
- open my heart to receive love
- give my love openly and as deeply as possible
- laugh as hard as possible because I'm happy
- love as deep as possible because I'm loved
- to compromise because if I'm right, then I'm wrong
- we are a team and we win together
- say "sorry" when I'm wrong and right
- Deep loving and intimate connection feels so good
- be supportive and nurturing because he needs to know that I see him, hear him and that he is loved
- We are purpose partners who help each other achieve our life purpose.
I learned how to create a healthy and loving relationship while I was married. My goal is to help you create a healthy, loving, relationship prior to getting married.
In my Date Like A Queen™ program, I teach you my six secrets to attracting and keeping a healthy loving relationship.
In Date Like A Queen™, I show you how to overcome trust issues, how to understand men, how to use feminine energy to be irresistible, how to build a true connection with a good man, how to love and receive genuine love and how to date confidently without settling for less.
Prior to Date Like A Queen, I had no knowledge of how to relate to the opposite sex. I was competing with the actions of other women who I thought were winning at love. I had just experienced the worst year ever in relationships, and knew that if I wanted the love that I deserved I had some inner work to do. I could not have asked for a more solid and thorough approach that led to my healing and understanding of dating patterns, loving myself, and the male psyche. 6 weeks later, I am now one thousand percent ahead of where I was just a few months ago, and I am ever so grateful, and seriously ready for the right type of love. ~ Shenelle W., Founder/Editor-in-Chief
Live - Love - Laugh
I don't believe in limitations. In fact, I'm run away from anything and anyone that dares to limit the possibilities that God has for me.
I found true love by reclaiming my self-worth while staying soft and honoring my true feelings.
I learned how to really and truly love myself unconditionally. I turned my abandonment wounds into wisdom, and that allowed me to receive love. I learned to trust my greatest gift – my intuition! And used it to guide my choices while staying authentic and true to myself every step of the way.
I help women like you remove the barriers to love. I help you removed the walls of self-protection that keeps you isolated and feeling alone. Together, we remove all the built up fear and resentment, and the negative expectation of disappointment.
I help you believe in love and trust yourself to choose the right man and keep a healthy and loving relationship. I help you establish new and healthy loving habits. We install healthier boundaries around your beautiful heart so you can attract a high-quality man. You'll learn how to date with confidence, be courted properly, and marry the love of your life (a.k.a. your Purpose Partner).
It’s time for you feel connected, cherished, appreciated and supported in a loving relationship with a THE RIGHT ONE.
Wow! Queenette, your "Date Like A Queen" program, is so powerful. I find myself replaying the audios several times because EVERY message is so powerful and enlightening. It has allowed me to reintroduce myself. I was shocked when l wrote this for one of the assignments:
"I am a queen that God created on March 22nd, 1974. Although l was mistreated and shamed in my childhood... l am not that person, it was what happened to me! I am still the beautiful person God created me to be. I am still VALID! His original plans are for me to be the powerful woman HE created. I am ready to shine and become ALL that God created me to be. I have given the enemy too much of my precious time. I am taking Queen Jasmine back. I am not looking for Mr. Right; he is looking for me because l am beautiful, loving, caring, funny and ready to share my life with a king worthy of my Queenship. I am not willing to settle for less, NO, not this time."
I can't believe l wrote this Queenette.... thanks again. You are simply the best."
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What do you need help with? Relationships, Self-Love/Life Purpose or Confidence
DATE LIKE A QUEEN™
I AM ENOUGH ACADEMY™
RADICAL SELF-CONFIDENCE BOOTCAMP
Real Love TRAINING
attract Mr. right AND BUILD A LOVING HOME
For women who are ready to meet and marry Mr. Right without settling for less. If a healthy loving relationship is your deepest desire and you are ready to build a family with a high-quality man who is commitment ready this is the program you've been praying for.
FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE +Self-love TRAINING
DEVELOP A DEEPER SELF-LOVE and find my life purpose
For women who want cultivate a deeper self-love, find their life purpose, overcome fear of abandonment and rejection. If you are ready release the past pain, and elevate your life to next level, I Am Enough Academy™ will change your life permanently.
believe in myself AND ACHIEVE MY GOALS
For women who want to radically increase her confidence and no longer question her worth. If you are ready to live a fearless and fulfilling life then this bootcamp is exactly what you need. It's time to soar beyond your limiting beliefs and step into a realm of possibilities and abundance.
My mission is to help 1 million women and girls all over the world cultivate deeper SELF-LOVE. I will help women and girls all over the world confidently and boldly declare the following statement "I am enough, and everything I need is already inside me!"
As a counselor and educator in the school system for over 15 years, I know that girls who don't believe in themselves give up on themselves. When girls give up on themselves they make poor choices. They grow up to be women who are confused, alone, abandoned and rejected.
My life purpose is to close the SELF-LOVE GAP in girls and women all over the world.
If you've been abandoned physically or emotionally by your mother or father, God created me to help you heal those wounds, love deeper, and achieve your life goals.
I help women and girls all over the world W.I.N at life through online course, coaching, retreats, live events and speaking.
W.I.N stands for WHOLE. INTUITIVE. NECESSARY.