Daddy And Mommy Issues

Who Am I?

...without a mother or father.

My husband and I were having a heart to heart conversation the other night and I said to him, "I'll never know what if feels like to get advice from my father." He looked at me then gave me a much-needed hug.

My father passed away when I was 12 years old. When I was younger, I never knew him on an intimate level because I had so many siblings, and he was a very busy man. I don't remember having a sit-down conversation with my father alone.

From what I hear about him, he was a generous and kind man.

I sometimes wonder what I missed. What is it like to have your father give you advice? What would my father say to me about business and the work that I do today? What advice would he give me about marriage? What advice would he give me about raising children?

That thought vanished quickly because my uncle was everything! I know what it's like to have a father-figure provide you with advice, guidance, and love, so I never felt like I missed out on a positive male role model. My uncle stood in the gap like a pro, and I thank God for his sacrifice.

I've concluded that what I missed was not a father's love, what I missed was the idea of what a father's love could have been.

I hope you see the difference. What causes us pain is not what we missed, is what we think we missed.

Whatever you think you missed will cause you to suffer.

Whether it's:

  • a mother's presence
  • a father's love
  • an ex-lover
  • a promotion
  • a business idea
  • an opportunity that could change your life

What makes you feel empty is what you think you missed.

Healing my abandonment wounds allowed me to let my husband deep in my heart on a level I know would not be possible on my own.

What you don't heal you'll repeat. Dealing with abandonment and rejection wounds has been my test and testimony. Healing my emotional wounds turning them into wisdom to help women like you overcome pain and unhealthy patterns that interfere with deep loving relationships is ultimately a blessing and a sweet spot.

The only thing I want you to know is healing abandonment and rejection is imperative in your ability to be happy in any relationship.

Let me make it simple. If you do not heal abandonment and rejections wounds, you will feel alone in a world of 7 BILLION people.

I know this pain all too well.

My prayer for you is to find the person that will help you through the healing process. Ignoring the pain won't work (I tried that too.) You need help to uncover and heal, so you can experience deep-love connections moving forward.

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The light in me sees the light in you.